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A Memoir of Adoption, Identity & Reunion

Finding Joi

A deeply honest chronicle of adoption, self-discovery, and reunion — a memoir that moves readers to tears and laughter, resonating across every corner of the adoption triad.

Reader Testimonials

What Readers Are Saying

Voices from the adoption triad — adoptees, advocates, and allies who found themselves in these pages.

"I was comforted as I kept thinking, You felt that way, too, Joi? As different as our experiences were as relinquished and adopted people, a lot of what we felt was the same. The deep seriousness of this memoir is threaded through with anecdotes that bring both tears and laughter. I am so glad that Joi took the time to chronicle her journey so carefully so that she could share it with us."

— Pam Hasegawa
Spokesperson, NJ Coalition for Adoption Reform and Education

Why This Story Matters

Honest. Moving. Important.

"Bravo! Joi's honest, moving story of self-discovery, adoption, and reunion is a moving, important addition of books by and about the adoption experience written by adopted people themselves."

— Alison Larkin
Comedienne, Award-winning Audio Book Narrator, and Bestselling Author of The English American

"Joi Fisher's memoir is one of the most insightful books of an adoptee's journey that I have ever read. Joi speaks to her experiences on so many levels that it is a MUST READ for everyone touched by adoption — adoptees, adoptive parents, birth parents, siblings, and more. I couldn't put it down!"

— Tom McGee
Co-facilitator, Morristown Post Adoption Support Group; Adoption Activist, NJCARE

Featured Testimonial

A Story That Resonates

Finding Joi is filled with heartfelt questions, everyday situations, and emotions that shed light on the myriad challenges adoptees face in searching for answers to our existence. Joi's story resonated with me on many levels. Regardless of success, accolades, or stature, at the end of the day, all adoptees want to know — 'Who Am I Really?' I hope that Joi's story encourages other adoptees to share their truth and find peace in their discovery.

— Damon Davis
Host, "Who Am I… Really?" Podcast

Educators & Advocates

A Journey That Transcends Adoption

From classrooms to community organizations, Finding Joi is sparking meaningful conversations.

Principal Baruti Kafele

"I have known Joi for quite some time but was not aware that she was adopted until a couple of years ago. Through reading her book, I found her story to be rather fascinating. Through her pen, I walked along her journey with her. Her story is one of compelling complete self-discovery. Not only is it a fascinating read, but there are a plethora of lessons for the non-adopted reader to take away as well."

— Educator / Author

Penny Callan Partridge

"I love reading about adopted people helping each other. Joi's book will help others by passing along so honestly the lessons she's learned."

— Co-founder in 1973 of Adoption Forum of Philadelphia

Book Club

Invite Finding Joi to Your Book Club

Finding Joi is a powerful catalyst for conversation — about identity, belonging, family, and healing. Perfect for book clubs, adoption support groups, and community organizations.

A Memoir Unlike Any Other

Finding Joi takes readers on an intimate journey through one woman's search for identity, belonging, and healing. It is a story of courage, vulnerability, and the universal desire to know where we come from — and who we truly are.

Who Should Read This Book?

Adoptees navigating their own journeys of identity

Adoptive parents seeking deeper understanding

Birth parents, siblings, and extended family members

Educators, counselors, and adoption advocates

Anyone curious about the full complexity of adoption

The Belong Project

It Is Time to Normalize the Conversation

"Adoption Loss is the only trauma in the world where the victims are expected by the whole of society to be grateful."

— The Reverend Keith C. Griffith, MBE

Joi wants to shine a light on the hidden struggles of adoption and enlighten people on how complex trauma affects everyone in the adoption circle. It is time to heal hearts, bridge gaps, unify the community, and acknowledge both the challenges and the joys in all things adoption.

Reader Impact

Children Are Not Born a Blank Slate

This truth lies at the heart of The Belong Project. Understanding who we are at birth — our nature, our origins, our biological story — is not a threat to the adoptive family. It is a vital part of every adoptee's journey toward wholeness and healing.

The Belong Project

Six Key Care Strategies

Joi shares six powerful strategies to foster healing and advocacy within the adoption triad. She hopes that at least one of them resonates with you today.

B — Believe & Bridge

Believe adoptees' stories. Bridge the gap within the adoption triad.

E — Educate & Equip

Educate the public about the real impact of adoption. Equip adoptees with tools to thrive.

L — Lend & Liberate

Lend your voice to advocacy. Liberate hearts suffering in silence to change the legacy of loss.

O — Operationalize & Organize

Operationalize care across all sectors. Organize systems of lasting support.

N — Normalize & Nurture

Normalize the conversation. Nurture and care for vulnerable populations.

G — Give & Grieve

Give adequate resources for adoptees to thrive. Make space for the triad to grieve their losses.

Join the Movement

Order Finding Joi Today

The Belong Project is an adoption awareness campaign built to foster lasting results in the lives of the adoption triad — adoptees, adoptive families, and birth families alike. Every conversation has the power to heal, to connect, and to transform.

Joi's voice, her story, and her vision for BELONG are an open invitation — to listen, to learn, and to take action. Together, we can change the legacy of adoption loss into one of understanding, compassion, and belonging.